This is a place where I think women can do better.

I’ve had men cross lines with me before, and when I reach out to inform their girlfriend, the majority of her anger gets directed at me. I can’t recall a specific example right now, but I’m willing to bet I’ve been the angry girlfriend at least once before too.

It’s not easy to handle hearing that your boyfriend has been inappropriate with another woman, but it’s incredibly important to remember that he is the one who made the mistake. We can’t blame the other woman for being available, for being friendly or for not stopping him. If we do a better job of holding men accountable for what they say and do to other women, maybe they will understand that they have the responsibility here. We can’t expect them to get better when we’re constantly blaming other women for their mistakes.